*** TL;DR: My name is Silver Clarke, nice to meet you all! ***
This is what you need to know. If you want to know why I wrote this, please read below.
So, I have been struggling with my gender identity for as long as I can remember. For those of you who didn't know: gender and biological sex are two different things; they say "sex is between the legs, gender is between the ears" - as in, you are what you feel you are, regardless of genitalia. Transgender people, for example, are assigned a certain sex at birth, but they identify with the opposite. As in: a transwoman is a biologically male person who identifies as female, and a transman is a biologically female person who identifies as male.
But that's not all there is to it. What if a person feels like they defy the gender binary altogether? It's complicated. Really complicated. One can't always easily explain to others that they feel neither male nor female. I would know, because that's what happens to me. The term for it? Agender. Neutrois. They work interchangeably, and indicate people whose gender is "neither male nor female".
For most of my life I thought I was a freak for thinking these things. I thought I was transgender until ~16 years old because I felt like I didn't belong in my body, and I assumed that the only alternative was having the opposite sex body and identifying with it. But I've never felt like a woman, and I've never felt like a man. And socially speaking, I've always felt more comfortable being around people of the opposite sex rather than my own. We shared many more interests, compared to how many I shared with the people of my own sex.
...In case you were wondering, it has no bearing on my sexual identity. I identify as asexual and I feel like I would still be asexual, no matter what my body was like. So, no, it's not about sexual repression. It's about *identity*.
I guess what I'm saying is, I started feeling out of place being called "he" or "she" (less so for "he", strangely) and have been asking people to refer to me as "they", which is slowly becoming the standard gender-neutral pronoun even in singular form. I won't ask you people to do so - feel free to call me whatever you like, really - but I would like it if you started calling me Silver instead of my given name. It's a lot more gender-neutral than my current name!
I won't be mad at you if you forget it. It's enough for me that you even try, really.
I am also trying to change my Facebook page name to feature Silver Clarke instead of what is in the header right now! Tips and help would be greatly appreciated on that regard. I do realise this is a mouthful of things for you to stomach and, in case you have any doubts, questions or concerns, feel free to express them.
That said, please don't forget that we have a fractal challenge going!
That's all. Thank you for listening. You might notice a nickname change on my end in the next few days - still pondering it, and I have to see whether or not I can make it happen on all websites that currently feature me as "heavenriver" or not. If I can, then I'm doing it. I'll be Silver Clarke from now on, and I would like to change my given name to that in the future - if the chance comes around, I will be sure to seize it.
This is all, I guess. Again, thank you. Cheer up. Be awesome. And welcome to my page if you're a recent watcher!